Self-empowerment is something many of us struggle with. Most of us don’t even know what it is or how it would feel to BE self-empowered. The dictionary defines to empower as – to give authority to somebody, to give somebody power or authority or to inspire somebody with confidence or to give somebody a sense of confidence or self-esteem.
When you are Authentically Self Empowered it is going to have a good feel to it.
- There will be a sense of confidence and capability.
- You will know what you need and what to do.
- You will be self assured and motivated.
- There will be clarity of purpose and you will feel inspired.
- All of this will extend into your life in the form of enthusiasm and a zest for new experiences.
Sounds awesome, doesn’t it? So what keeps us from Being Self Empowered?
When we are not centered in our true Self we are either in a state of passivity – ie “we give ourselves away” or we are in a state of forcefulness or aggression where we try to take power by controlling. Either way we’re trying to make life work the way we think it should and we are looking to receive love, acceptance or approval from life. When we seek these outside of self we lose Self and although we may get a sense of this from others the feeling only lasts a short time and we will need to do it all over again.
In fact what we are doing is expecting life to empower us. We may demand it or hope for it. In either case we are blaming life for not being empowered! To BE Empowered you must choose it. It comes from within as you give yourself the authority over you and you inspire confidence in yourself.
What’s Eating Gilbert Grape?
I revisited this favorite movie starring Johnny Depp and Leonardo DiCaprio last night. Johnny plays Gilbert who is in his early twenties. His life circumstances have placed him in some challenges dropping huge responsibilities upon him that are weighing heavily. Leo plays his soon-to-be 18-year-old brother Arnie who is developmentally at the age of about three. Their father is dead and their mother is emotionally incapable of looking after herself or her family, which includes two sisters to Gilbert and Arnie.
You can see that Gilbert is viewing life as unfair and he’s looking for a way out. He struggles with his feelings of ambivalence and anger but in the end he comes to see what is important to him. In coming to this realization the anger and ambivalence drop away to allow in love and acceptance. With this shift come clarity and confidence and a knowing what needs to be done. His circumstances have not changed but he has and his life takes on meaning and purpose.
The lesson here is that life does not change to suit you or give you what you need. You do! Give yourself authority over you and inspire yourself with confidence and self-esteem and see how your life changes.