Our difficulties in life are meant to make us better not bitter. (Author Unknown)
We all face tough patches throughout our lives. Just the act of being born is an unavoidable challenge and then the real fun begins! We all have day-to-day struggles to get through – maybe the dog chewed up something important to you, or you are ready to head out the door when your baby spits up on your clean shirt, you get a flat tire or miss the bus. Any number of minor inconveniences can impede the smooth running of your day.
The most important thing to notice here is how you handle these annoyances. Do you get annoyed? How do you react? Can you find something positive in what has happened or do you focus on the negative aspects of the event?
You may find that when focussing on the negative your day tends to get a little rockier. But when you take these things in stride with good humour your day flows more smoothly.
The Tough Stuff
What about those big challenges? Let’s consider being laid off at work, living with a serious health issue, home destroyed by fire, divorce, death of a loved one, etc.
Now we find that all those daily annoyances were practice for how we face crisis in our lives. We can ask the same questions. Do you panic or shrink from the crisis? How do you react? Can you find something positive in this situation? Do you become bitter or better?
It’s important that we not compare our difficulties. I’ve often heard people say they shouldn’t feel that their challenge is all that hard as somebody else has it harder. To shrug off your situation as not as bad as someone else’s devalues you and your journey. A challenge is a challenge and it is how you choose to face it that matters.
What are some of the challenges you’ve faced and how have they made you better?