A couple of months ago I sent out an invitation to follow this blog with a promise that I would not fill your inboxes with a plethora of posts as I only blog a few times each month. A few of you took me up on this and began to follow and it is to you I offer an apology for the rash of recent posts. I hope that my change in policy and drifting from my promise does not send you packing. I decided to take up this challenge – http://ultimateblogchallenge.com/ to post daily for the month of July 2012.
Thank you for continuing to read and comment and welcome to my new followers!
My apology leads me to today’s topic – Forgiveness. There has been a lot written on this as there isn’t one among us that hasn’t wished for forgiveness nor had reason to forgive. Forgiving minor transgressions or little wrongs that can easily be made right is not really a problem for most of us but these acts of forgiveness can be viewed as practise for the deeper hurts we may be dealt.
People hurt each other often (we’re human after all!) and these acts can be intentional or unconscious. Sometimes we never know the pain we may have caused. And sometimes we will realize much later that we have caused someone to suffer.
When you recognize that you have wronged someone how do you make a correction? Asking for forgiveness from the person is not really the answer although letting them know you are aware of what you have done is a good start. The most important person to forgive is yourself. Deeply feel the pain of what has been done. In other words feel your remorse over the situation and then take responsibility for yourself. You will need to see then what you can do to right the wrong in your specific situation.
There are times however when nothing can be done. Perhaps so much time has passed that those involved have passed on, cannot be located, the person refuses to have anything to do with you or doing something would be redundant. But the realization of the wrong may still be with you so simply again feel your remorse and forgive yourself as best you can.
And then it is important to move on having learned from your experience.