When we are very young we are open books or clean hard drives to use a metaphor. We begin writing our story and downloading experiences.
At this time in our lives we are not capable of caring for ourselves and must have all our basic needs met by our caregivers. (Usually these are our parents so that is how we will refer to caregivers.) We all do the very best we can as parents but we can’t always know or be able to give every need as it comes up.
As infants we cannot communicate effectively and we do not even know what it is we need. We only know something is not as it needs to be.
What are these basic needs?
Briefly they are:
- Safety and Security
- Control or Autonomy
- Acceptance and Approval
As we get older these needs take on deeper meaning or significance. As infants Safety and Security pretty much covers it all. Next time we’ll discuss each of these to clarify them.