Healing and Basic Needs Part One

When we are very young we are open books or clean hard drives to use a metaphor.   We begin writing our story and downloading experiences.


At this time in our lives we are not capable of caring for ourselves and must have all our basic needs met by our caregivers.  (Usually these are our parents so that is how we will refer to caregivers.)  We all do the very best we can as parents but we can’t always know or be able to give every need as it comes up.

As infants we cannot communicate effectively and we do not even know what it is we need.   We only know something is not as it needs to be.

What are these basic needs?

Briefly they are:

  • Safety and Security
  • Control or Autonomy
  • Acceptance and Approval
  • Love

As we get older these needs take on deeper meaning or significance.  As infants Safety and Security pretty much covers it all.   Next time we’ll discuss each of these to clarify them.


About Coach Mary

Mary is a Master Maven Coach (Maven Method™) - one of the deepest reaching and most effective coaching methods at present and is also trained in the Golden Flow™ Method of releasing blocks and flowing with life. She has completed the Mastery of Awareness and Transformation courses with Kris and Kalyn Raphael, certified personal growth guides from the don Miguel Ruiz lineage (world renowned author of The Four Agreements). Mary’s life experience has exposed her to many varied careers, many joys and some deeply painful events. She has released and healed the crushing grief from the death of her son to rediscover the love and joy of life. All have led to an inner awakening and a drive to know her Self deeply and to live life fully, consciously and with Intent. Among her dreams is to guide and support others in their journey through self-awareness and transformation.
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