Basic Needs Not Met
As parents we try to meet our children’s needs as best we can. As children we try to get our needs met as best we can. Don’t forget that our parents didn’t get all of their needs met either. Due to misunderstandings, misinterpretations, incapability on the part of the parent(s), neglect or deliberate mistreatment we do not receive all of our basic needs.
This creates within us what we will refer to as a hole or a wound which can cause occasional mild discomfort or can be like a sucking chest wound. Unless we tend to them, unless we heal them from within they will continue to attract consequences in our outer world and we will continue to seek to have that hole filled from our outer world.
The irony is that our outer world is a reflection of our inner world and cannot fill our need. Whatever temporary relief we receive from our outer world will simply fall through the hole of our need and we will be caught in the cycle of seeking and having it drain away and seeking again.
We must address these needs by giving them to ourselves from within.
Next week we will further discuss our childhood wounds.