Our Personality

Earlier this week I posted about our leader self or Self

Who Has Taken the Lead?

This Self is our dominant personality self.  We each have many personality characteristics and to varying degrees embody all of them.  However, we can find that each of us has a set of characteristics that define our main personality.

When we can establish a clear picture of our dominant personality characteristics and how our personality type generally tends to interact

  • we can more easily establish practises that are best for our type.
  • We can catch ourselves in the act when we know how our general tendencies manifest
  • that is when we’re under stress and
  • how we move forward in our personal growth.


There are many personality typing models that can be helpful.  One of the best and most comprehensive is the Enneagram.  Much research and practise has taken place using the Enneagram.  In employing this model one can facilitate one’s work in personal development.  Many psychologists, mentors, life coaches and spiritual teachers are now making great use of this tool.


Russ Hudson and Don Riso are researchers, scholars, teachers and leaders in working with the Enneagram.  Their book The Wisdom of the Enneagram is an excellent place to start in identifying one’s personality type.

Nine Types

You can do the quick questionnaires to get an idea of which of the nine types your’s might be.  However it is easy to mis-identify oneself.  I recommend reading about each type to have the clearest picture.

Have some fun with this!

If you would like to know more about the Enneagram these websites will be helpful  Professional Enneagram Association of Canada  and  The Enneagram Institute


Although the Enneagram is a very effective tool for the study of Personality and for aiding in the development, growth and evolution of Self keep in mind that it is just that – a tool.  It will not do the work for you nor is it a way to practise and gain inner wisdom.  It is a guide only and of course “Don’t believe anything”.  Don’t Believe Anything   Check it out for yourself.


About Coach Mary

Mary is a Master Maven Coach (Maven Method™) - one of the deepest reaching and most effective coaching methods at present and is also trained in the Golden Flow™ Method of releasing blocks and flowing with life. She has completed the Mastery of Awareness and Transformation courses with Kris and Kalyn Raphael, certified personal growth guides from the don Miguel Ruiz lineage (world renowned author of The Four Agreements). Mary’s life experience has exposed her to many varied careers, many joys and some deeply painful events. She has released and healed the crushing grief from the death of her son to rediscover the love and joy of life. All have led to an inner awakening and a drive to know her Self deeply and to live life fully, consciously and with Intent. Among her dreams is to guide and support others in their journey through self-awareness and transformation.
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2 Responses to Our Personality

  1. Sounds like this is something couples could explore together in marital or pre-marital counselling?

    • Coach Mary says:

      Hi Carolina, Yes, it is and is done. There are Enneagram courses given regularly on Relationship. It also pertains to ANY relationship we have. When we understand ourself and relate to ourself well we will also be more understanding of others and relate better. Thank you for your comment!

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