Choosing to Be Your Self

As we continue to open our eyes,

wake up

and become more and more aware through our practises of observation and remembering to stay awake


we can begin to heal the wounded child fragments.

We are beginning to know our dominant personality self and in being this self in it’s most mature state we lead or take care of those parts that were left behind at a less mature stage of development.  We engage with these fragments of self as they “come up” or present themselves to our awareness.  They appear when they are triggered by events.

Staying in Self

It is now the mature self’s responsibility to recognize these fragments as they surface to a trigger and keep them from taking over and reacting in our world.  When we see them we can “stay in Self” and not become them.

But we will not worry or judge ourselves when we miss it and find ourselves reacting.  This process again takes awareness and practise and each time we are given the opportunity to practise these events can and do get the better of us and we lose ourselves to the “charge”.

At first we may only see the trigger, charge and patterned reactive behaviour in hindsight.  This may happen many times before we are able to catch ourselves in the act so we must be patient as we will not “get it right” the first time nor every time.

As we practise

  • not reacting to a trigger,
  • not becoming charged and
  • not falling into being the fragmented self

we will, as Self (our mature dominant personality Self ) accept this child part as it IS the same way a parent would accept a child that is in emotional pain.

We will interact (in our inner world) with this “child” to discover what it needs.  We will comfort and quiet this child by giving it what it needs Self to self.

Basic Needs Part One

With practise and patience we can heal these wounds.  Some we can heal completely, integrate them or “bring them home”.  Some will remain scarred or tender just as injuries on and in our physical bodies scar or remain tender.  And so we will simply continue to treat those scarred or tender parts with gentle, loving care.

The Importance of Community

Now that we are working a little deeper it should be apparent that healing work is not easy.  It is so important it cannot be stressed enough that we must have a community of like-minded souls that also have chosen to awaken and walk this path to their Highest Human Being-ness.   We teach and support each other best when we work within a setting where there are those that have gone before and those that are following after.  In this way we all move forward with more ease as we walk within the open, accepting, loving support of other individuals.


About Coach Mary

Mary is a Master Maven Coach (Maven Method™) - one of the deepest reaching and most effective coaching methods at present and is also trained in the Golden Flow™ Method of releasing blocks and flowing with life. She has completed the Mastery of Awareness and Transformation courses with Kris and Kalyn Raphael, certified personal growth guides from the don Miguel Ruiz lineage (world renowned author of The Four Agreements). Mary’s life experience has exposed her to many varied careers, many joys and some deeply painful events. She has released and healed the crushing grief from the death of her son to rediscover the love and joy of life. All have led to an inner awakening and a drive to know her Self deeply and to live life fully, consciously and with Intent. Among her dreams is to guide and support others in their journey through self-awareness and transformation.
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