Why Hate Doug the Dog?

We talked last time about perspective.  How we look at things and events determines our experience of them.  If we are seeing from the eyes of a wounded part of self we will have a very different experience than if we are seeing from the eyes of our Highest Self.

Who Determines Our Experience

“Ban This Facebook Page!!!”

I had a conversation the other day with a friend who invited me to vote to have a particular Facebook page removed.  There was a lot of interest generated in this page due to its content which went against the general grain of societal norms.  The page dealt with jokes about cancer and it’s title was meant to grab attention which it certainly did.

Here is an edited version of what I said to my friend:

I decided to go to see what that page is all about.

Have you watch the Pixar/Disney movie Up? There are a lot of dogs in this and Doug the Dog laughs at his own “joke” about squirrels getting caught by dogs. He says its funny because the squirrel dies. In a Disney movie? but in a way it was funny because of where the joke came from – a dog.

The page in question is titled Cancer Is Funny Because People Die and appears to be a play on Doug the Dog’s joke.

Let’s make some things clear:

  • First – my son died of brain cancer and
  • Second – no it’s not funny.
  • However, the page appears to be black humour which can be offensive to many.
  • I only saw one “joke” there as I scrolled through.
  • The majority of posts were riddled with invective directed at the page owner. And there were a lot of angry posts!

Black humour takes quite a lot of getting used to. When Mike was sick we did make jokes about the cancer process. It helped to laugh at it. Death scares us and actually we need not fear it. But really it is helpful to take some of the punch out of it with some dry humour. We all make jokes about dying.

But to get back to the page and the petition: I see no reason to spend any time or energy concerning ourselves with these “jokes” any more than I would focus more attention on Doug the Dog’s lame joke about squirrels. The more attention it gets the deeper into the rabbit hole we go.  The more we focus on something we don’t want the worse it gets.

What does concern me is the hate directed at the guy who started the page. Why hate Doug the Dog?

When we collectively act from a charged place we do ourselves no favours.  We play into the drama of the situation and drain ourselves of energy we might prefer to place elsewhere.  Such as:

  • looking to see why this bothers us so much.
  • What is really at the root of why this makes us angry, hurt, upset?
  • Why do we want to take out our unhealthy emotions in an unhealthy way on someone else?

When we find ourselves getting drawn into something like this it is good to step back and take stock of what is really going on within ourselves.  And then its good to laugh at ourselves a little.


About Coach Mary

Mary is a Master Maven Coach (Maven Method™) - one of the deepest reaching and most effective coaching methods at present and is also trained in the Golden Flow™ Method of releasing blocks and flowing with life. She has completed the Mastery of Awareness and Transformation courses with Kris and Kalyn Raphael, certified personal growth guides from the don Miguel Ruiz lineage (world renowned author of The Four Agreements). Mary’s life experience has exposed her to many varied careers, many joys and some deeply painful events. She has released and healed the crushing grief from the death of her son to rediscover the love and joy of life. All have led to an inner awakening and a drive to know her Self deeply and to live life fully, consciously and with Intent. Among her dreams is to guide and support others in their journey through self-awareness and transformation.
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12 Responses to Why Hate Doug the Dog?

  1. Nice post and perspective Mary. It’s always helpful to me to see someone else’s considered and articulate point of view.

    People may be uncomfortable because they fear death. I think what might make me uncomfortable with this sort of thing is the lack of sensitivity, experienced as an absence of love in the moment. And it seems when someone is after stirring up this kind of a reaction in others they are calling out for love.

  2. The workings of ego self is so easy justify judgment. Inner work is straight to the core. Nice article

  3. RedChef says:

    Funny, I just found the truest perspective I’ve ever seen on this topic the other day in a quote attributed to Buddha, and I love it! How about this:

    Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

  4. Rona says:

    I agree, Mary. If this Facebook site is not harming people – you only see it if you look for it (and I had to look hard for it as there are so many “banning” pages). As far as I can see, no one is harmed by him having the page, so why should we spend our valuable time worrying about it. Whoops, I just did!

    • Coach Mary says:

      Whoops! Yes we did! But more so we were looking at our own reactions etc. which is worthwhile in itself.

      • Joan Duncan says:

        Great article Mary – It is so easy to get caught up and carried away with things like this, we loose all perspective – Its good to slow down and realize it’s just one person’s opinion and there’s other ways of seeing situations that draw our attention.

      • RedChef says:

        Great point, Mary! We can ask ourselves, Are we “wallowing”, or, what’s our reason for thinking/talking/writing about a certain topic? It has to be a *real* reason, though — we might say one thing and be acting out another, and our bodies will let us know the difference… 😉

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