We talked last time about perspective. How we look at things and events determines our experience of them. If we are seeing from the eyes of a wounded part of self we will have a very different experience than if we are seeing from the eyes of our Highest Self.
“Ban This Facebook Page!!!”
I had a conversation the other day with a friend who invited me to vote to have a particular Facebook page removed. There was a lot of interest generated in this page due to its content which went against the general grain of societal norms. The page dealt with jokes about cancer and it’s title was meant to grab attention which it certainly did.
Here is an edited version of what I said to my friend:
I decided to go to see what that page is all about.
Have you watch the Pixar/Disney movie Up? There are a lot of dogs in this and Doug the Dog laughs at his own “joke” about squirrels getting caught by dogs. He says its funny because the squirrel dies. In a Disney movie? but in a way it was funny because of where the joke came from – a dog.
The page in question is titled Cancer Is Funny Because People Die and appears to be a play on Doug the Dog’s joke.
Let’s make some things clear:
- First – my son died of brain cancer and
- Second – no it’s not funny.
- However, the page appears to be black humour which can be offensive to many.
- I only saw one “joke” there as I scrolled through.
- The majority of posts were riddled with invective directed at the page owner. And there were a lot of angry posts!
Black humour takes quite a lot of getting used to. When Mike was sick we did make jokes about the cancer process. It helped to laugh at it. Death scares us and actually we need not fear it. But really it is helpful to take some of the punch out of it with some dry humour. We all make jokes about dying.
But to get back to the page and the petition: I see no reason to spend any time or energy concerning ourselves with these “jokes” any more than I would focus more attention on Doug the Dog’s lame joke about squirrels. The more attention it gets the deeper into the rabbit hole we go. The more we focus on something we don’t want the worse it gets.
What does concern me is the hate directed at the guy who started the page. Why hate Doug the Dog?
When we collectively act from a charged place we do ourselves no favours. We play into the drama of the situation and drain ourselves of energy we might prefer to place elsewhere. Such as:
- looking to see why this bothers us so much.
- What is really at the root of why this makes us angry, hurt, upset?
- Why do we want to take out our unhealthy emotions in an unhealthy way on someone else?
When we find ourselves getting drawn into something like this it is good to step back and take stock of what is really going on within ourselves. And then its good to laugh at ourselves a little.