Lately we have been discussing here how we attract in a collective way
and I was asked when individual concerns would be addressed. We will start with some examples that may be less charged than others and may be a little silly (we can always use a chance to laugh at ourselves). And yet these can be true to life….
We all have preferences and often we find ourselves in situations where we are not receiving that which we prefer in our circumstances. My Friends like to use ice cream as an example and I like that as well.
Let’s say you would like an ice cream treat so you go to the parlour to get some. Your favourite flavour is Rocky Road so you are anticipating that wonderful serving of Rocky Road ice cream. However when you arrive you see that they only serve Bubble Gum flavour which is one you don’t like at all. Because you want ice cream you settle for a serving of Bubble Gum but it really doesn’t satisfy you and you throw most of it away.
You go back a few days later and the same thing happens – no Rocky Road and only Bubble Gum which you purchase and throw most away. You repeat this procedure several times until you finally recognize that this situation is not going to change until you change. What is the change you make within yourself? Once you change “within” your “without” will begin to change as well.
As you look at all of what you feel when you are in the situation you will begin to see why you behave the way you do.
- How do you feel when Rocky Road is not available?
- How do you feel when you buy Bubble Gum and taste it and throw it away?
- What motivates you to buy something you didn’t want in the first place?
- Why do you keep going back for more of the same?
Some things you know for certain are:
- that you desire Rocky Road.
- You do not desire Bubble Gum.
So you change a behaviour by not purchasing the Bubble Gum. You may still be disappointed that there is no Rocky Road but you are now not accepting something you do not like. Once you begin to change within your outer world will also begin to change but be aware that it will not necessarily change in the time frame you think it should, nor will it necessarily change in the way you think it should.
Focus on the desire, not the Not Having of the desire.
You maintain your desire for a serving of Rocky Road ice cream and at some time it will come to you. You may find yourself going to a different ice cream parlour where they always have Rocky Road, or visiting a friend who keeps it in her freezer just for friends like you. Or you may learn how to make your own ice cream. Simply be assured that you will get your desire of a serving of Rocky Road ice cream!
What about something a little more difficult, something within relationship?
For the ladies:
Every time you meet he plays “robin hood!”. (For those unfamiliar with this ‘game’ someone pulls on the rear bra strap and lets it snap back)
Apart from this childish routine he is intelligent, caring and fun to be with.
For the gentlemen:
Every time you meet she licks her fingers and smoothes your hair.
Apart from this unfortunate behaviour she is intelligent, caring and fun to be with.
As with the ice cream why do we keep going back for more of the same? Why do we accept Bubble Gum or Robin Hood or Spitty Hair? Yes, for starters we like ice cream and each other however we want to shift ourselves so that our outer world reflects something a little different. We want the Rocky Road ice cream and we want to let go of being teased childishly or treated like a child.
- We empower ourselves when we look within to know what it is that keeps us accepting something other than Rocky Road.
- We empower ourselves when we look within and recognize why we allow and accept being abused in the name of “teasing”.
- we empower ourselves when we look within and recognize why we allow and accept being ridiculed in the name of “caring about us”.
Look within! When you can understand why you personally allow or accept what is going on you can then let that energy go. You may not notice changes in your outer world immediately and there may be resistance within your interactions to accepting the new energy of who you are becoming. And sometimes you will need to simply let the situation or circumstance go too. Always remember that it is only you that you can change. You cannot change anything or anyone else. Your world will not change unless you do.
Be the change you want to see in the world.